Author’s note to newcomers: Our family of origin—or the culture in our own homes—has a considerable impact on our work, our rest, the lens through which we interpret relationships, our kids, our conversation, our spirituality, even our sex life (betcha didn’t think you’d find them in there!).
Plus, I just think it’s plain interesting to understand where we came from—as someone who lives in a different culture that’s helped me better understand my own. It’s helped me be more gracious, more wise, more self-knowledgeable (which helps me be more aware in my relationship with God), and hopefully more holy.
Remember when using these to imagine tacking on the end of every question, Why? and How did this affect you and/or your family?
If you missed the first post, see here for the first questions and ideas behind this series!
- Did your parents come from similar economic backgrounds? Has your family always been of their current economic class? If not, what was the catalyst for change? How are things different now, and how did your parents respond to the change in circumstances? What are the best money-handling skills you learned from your family?
- How do the individual members of your family generally respond to money? Pastor and author Tim Keller has noted that money is a tool: It is used for certain purposes that we see as fulfilling, e.g. security, power, comfort, approval. How does your family members’ handling of money express their individual personalities, experiences (positive or negative), or the power dynamic in your family? Is money used in any particularly healthy or unhealthy ways?
- In five words, how would you describe your parents’ marriage? What stories or regular interactions have shed light on the nature of their marriage? At what point in your life did you become more aware of their relational dynamic? Are there significant events in your family’s timeline that you suspect (or know) impacted their relationship? Is there an aspect of their marriage you hope to have in your own marriage?
“Honey, I don’t know how to tell you this, but—I’m not your dad.”
And yet–that was my husband to me, a few months ago. For the record, it’s been 15 years this week (woot!) since we cooed “I do.” But it seems I was still giving him reason to remind me who I married. And who I didn’t.
Yet this post, and what I hope will be an ongoing series, isn’t just for the hitched folks out there. Our family of origin—or the culture in our own homes—has a considerable impact on our work, our rest, the lens through which we interpret relationships, our kids, our conversation, our spirituality, even our sex life (betcha didn’t think you’d find them in there!).
Recently I’ve had a number of people willing to speak into my life about a number of my, well, issues. (Those of you who know me may be hoping someone took the chance to tell me about that one in particular–whatever you’ve already glimpsed. In case you are wanting to sign up for this role in my life, I consider the positions filled. Perhaps with a waiting list.)
A few weeks ago I lay in someone’s king-sized guest bed, a few feet from my husband. He and I had disagreed about something. The fact that I can’t remember for the life of me what it was about tells you just how trivial it was—but suffice it to say I was still disgruntled. My hide, as they say, was chapped. I was still kind of glad that there were a few feet between us. Had one of those nights?
But I’m pretty sure it was the Holy Spirit rattling around in my skull: Put your arm around him. Because trust me, the rest of me was not convinced. The rest of me wanted to camp out in my little corner of the bed, and then enjoy the slumbering pleasure of forgetfulness. Continue reading
My site isn’t dedicated to homeschooling, so I want to keep posts for this niche audience brief. But in honor of a dear and frugal friend who’s considering homeschooling next year, I’ve posted 10 Ways to Save on Homeschooling This Year on my Freebies for Educators page (I know, I know, not technically a freebie). Hope it helps!